I'm on a few dating websites. My profile on all of them states very clearly that if you're married or otherwise involved, don't bother contacting me. I have had men either not read that portion of my profile or think that they're so amazing (or I'm so gullible) that they will be the ones to change my mind about that. I try to be as polite as possible. "No thank you. Good luck. Hope you find what you're looking for." However, most of the time I want to all-caps their asses and virtually yell "FIX YOUR SHIT OR GET OUT!!"
My most recent two encounters tried to garner some sympathy. "Things aren't good at home." "I haven't had sex in two years." And that's my concern, HOW?? Sorry, boys. You get zero sympathy from me. None. Staying in a bad relationship is a choice. I'm not saying it's an easy one. But nevertheless it is a choice. And as a point of full disclosure here, I confess to having had a past relationship with a married man. It wasn't fun. It wasn't easy. It wasn't worth a few moments of seeing him to go through all the rest of it. Guilt. Hurt. Resentment. And the biggest argument against it: you, as the "other woman" will never be first for him. You will never be his priority. You will never be the one he chooses. And if by some miracle he does get a divorce and decides to be with you, you are now involved with a man who doesn't try to fix what's wrong in a relationship, but instead seeks fulfillment elsewhere.
My conclusion: A no win situation if what you're searching for is a healthy, fulfilled, full-time relationship.
I agree staying in a bad relationship is a choice.
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Thank you, baygirl! I appreciate you stopping by to check out my A to Z and taking the time to comment!
DeleteYOU are B brave, but I like honesty!
ReplyDeleteI too agree, bad relationships are a choice, a sad one~
Good Luck to you!
Ella, I'm not so sure if it's bravery or stupidity that has me this honest. LOL I just know that being fully honest is the best way for me to express myself and maybe even help people understand from where I'm coming. Thanks for the comment and for checking out my newbie blog.
DeleteI guess it's too be expected that they'll try anything. They probably don't even read the requirements, just have a stock message they send out to everyone like spam.
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KarenG, thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post! I chose the word because it was something that had happened recently and it was something I've wanted to say for a while. Granted, I only give one view of this, but it is my truth and my reality. I do appreciate you taking the time to let me know your thoughts. :)
DeleteLove it! I absolutely agree that staying is a choice and that you need to live with those consequences. I also think that many men simply want their cake and to eat it, too. I have so little respect for that.
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